Nguyên văn bởi istvan
Denial is the first step towards acceptance. We should be glad when we are in denial as we just made the first step.
The 5 steps towards acceptance are:
We all go through these steps. So does our students who come to learn. We need to be very patient with them and help them through these steps.
I was an eager instructor myself, now i've come to easyly accept everybody's decision regarding to coming to classes, practicing UE transfers. I like to see myself as "support personel" - intructor/councelor - whatever students need.
I relaized patience is mostly important when dealing with students. When they come to learn it's impossible to offer them the big picture in one weekend long basic level. They need to understand they have to learn step by step and as much as they want.
I just wish to share a few thoughts about my excerpts of yours:
1.Why do we have to go through FIVE steps toward "acceptance" ?
We can accept anything ( everything) "as is" and let the calmness inside
us to resolve the "fact".
a. When you started denying you would have sure based on your viewpoint
for your accessment/judgement which was more or less "subjective",
b.anger : please stay away with it! ( for your own sake!)
c.bargaining (?) - with who? for what purpose?
d.depression : because you have lost your view?
e.acceptance : thanks goodness : this can be the first position to take to
2.If we ARE NOT an UNLOCKED ( or at least being a ...spiritual master receiving revelations from High Beings ...as Master Dang used to stress when conducting UE seminars) we cannot "give spiritual lectures" or even "teach" what was taught by Buddha/ Jesus Christ / Mohamad ( ONLY we can convey our interpretation/understanding of WHAT we understood from those "religious literatures"! By no means we have the right/ability to "force" listeners to accept what we understood- THAT is absolute freedom which Master Dang had taught us, hadn't he )
In this case, those who come to attend the seminar YOU conduct are just ....seminar participants, NOT your students ( sorry)!
I do apologize for my straight-forward statements.